15th Sunday after Pentecost 2007

Proper 18

     the Rev. Ken Kroohs

September 09, 2007

(Deuteronomy 30:15-20; Psalm 1; Philemon 1-20; Luke 14:25-33)

DO YOU WANT WINE OR VINEGAR ?

St. Christopher’s, High Point, NC

 

 

 

MAY THE WORDS OF MY MOUTH ... AND THE MEDITATIONS OF ALL OUR HEARTS ... BE ALWAYS ACCEPTABLE TO YOU ‑‑‑ OUR STRENGTH AND OUR REDEEMER  AMEN

 

 

    Jesus’ teaching is another of His confusing ones.  What is this about HATING your family? Aren’t you supposed to love your family? ...  What is this about counting the cost?  Aren’t you supposed to go forth in faith not worrying about how it will happen?

 

    This past week I was speaking with a colleague ... I am fairly sure no one here knows this person so don’t try to guess!  My friend was talking about calling a person whose spouse was having an operation.  I mentioned that I always try to be at the hospital when a person is having an operation.  My friend said “I don’t have time for that!!  I have this and that and this other thing to do.” .... As we talked we finally agreed it was a matter of setting priorities.  I don’t get everything filed away after a meeting — although if other people leave my desk alone I can usually find stuff!!  And there are other things I don’t always get done.  These are priority questions — not really “time” questions.

 

    Today Moses and Jesus are talking about priorities.

 

    Let’s look at Moses’ statement.  I have this image that Moses is a bit frustrated — not exactly angry but frustrated that the people do not understand.  So he says: “look guys – it really is not that difficult.  You can choose this or that.  You cannot have both, you must make a choice.  I have set before you life and good — or death and evil.  Which do you want?” 

 

    Later in the passage Moses goes a step further.  Rather than simply saying “make a decision” Moses tells them which is right decision: “Choose life”

 

    Jesus is saying something very similar.  I don’t believe Jesus is teaching us to “hate” our families as we understand the word “hate”.  Rather Jesus is telling us that we must make a choice.  Notice the final statement: “So therefore, whoever of you does not renounce all that he has, cannot be my disciple.

 

    I think the parts about counting the cost are Jesus’ way of warning us that there will be a cost.  I believe Jesus is telling us not to start down the road of Christianity unless we are serious about walking the full road.  We use to call this “defensive communication” — Jesus is laying it all out so when someone complains He can say: “Whoa!  I told you what this choice would mean!” The great multitudes were following Jesus but He knew that most of them where not ready or willing to pay the full price.

    “But”, we say, “but isn’t God and Jesus and Christianity supposed to free and available to everyone?” ---- Wellllll ... yes, and no.  It is free and available to everyone.  But it also requires making choices – which can be considered a cost.

 

    When we get enter a committed relationship or get married, we decide to settle down with one person --- that is a wonderful gift ... free (not talking monetary here!!) free and available to everyone.  BUT there is a cost.  The wedding service states it means “forsaking all others”.  The relationship between a married person and another person is different than between a single person and another single person.  At the very least the potential directions a relationship can go differs depending on whether we are married or single.

 

    A person under a work contract has a different relationship with other potential employers than an unemployed person.

 

    A person who has chosen God has a different relationship with other people and other influences than a person who has not honestly and sincerely chosen God.

 

    A married person pays the cost of not being with other people romantically.  The person with a work contract pays the cost of not being available to work at other places.

 

    The person who honestly and sincerely chooses God ... in Moses’ words, chooses life and good, pays the cost of not going in other directions.  BUT, while the person who chooses life and good may pay the cost of not going in other directions, they will receive the joy of finding their true selves.

 

    Acknowledging that we all fail from time to time in our relationship with God, when we choose God we turn away from other possible decisions.  Or, we should ... or we MUST if we are true to our decision for God.

 

    In our marriage service when the words are spoken that we will “forsake all others” we think we know what that means.  And we are at least partially correct.  It does mean sexually forsaking all others.  But it means much, much, much more.

 

    So when Moses and Jesus speak about choosing God, it does mean not worshiping Baal, but it also means much, much, much more.

 

    Scripture uses the parallel between marriage and being righteous — in right relationship with God.  It is a strong parallel.  I have begun to focus more on adultery as when anything separates spouses.  It could be excessive focus on work, or hobbies, or money, or kids, or whatever.  Anything that takes a person away from their spouse is a form of adultery. 

 

    EVEN .... even church work can be a form of adultery!

 

    A similar thought process applies for our relationship to God.  Anything that comes between us and God means we are making a choice AGAINST God. ..... Whoa! .... What a minute here Ken !!!  I was not choosing against God but rather for something else!  For family, for work, for hobbies, for financial security, for prestige, for whatever ... not AGAINST God but FOR something.

 

    Sorry.  That’s Jesus’ exact point.  When we choose to be FOR something that is not God, we are choosing to be against God.

 

    Jesus’ exact point ... count the cost ... understand the implications.  Be ready to pay the price and the biggest part of that price is being willing to let go of other things.

 

    Here’s an image that might help understand choices. (place a large jar of vinegar and a large bottle of wine on the altar) ... when you come up for communion ... do you want wine?  Or do you want vinegar?

 

    As I thought about that comparison I was struck with how grape vinegar and grape wine begin the same way.  The same components create either wine or vinegar .... depending on the choices we make.  The same components of life create good or evil ... depending on the choices we make.

 

    That sounds like such an easy decision but what Moses is telling us is that our decision about God is just as obvious. .... And yet, .... we say the words but may not live out the choice.

 

    The two easiest parts of our lives to visualize this choice ... this price we must be willing to pay ... are financial and time.  What comes first in our budget of money and time?

 

    A good, and bad, exercise ....good” in the sense that it helps us understand ourselves ... “bad” in the sense that it usually does not leave us feeling great! .... the exercise is to pick something we could do for God ... and honestly seek to work that into our lives ... then listen to ourselves argue our self out of it!

 

    Everyone of us could give 5 hours more a week to ministry activities.  We could. .... ahhhh — that voice in your head telling you that I am crazy?  THAT’S what I meant about listening to ourselves argue our self out of it!  That voice that says: “No I can’t!  I have to ____” is an extremely important voice ... an extremely important teacher.  That voice is the voice telling you what you put in front of God.  What do you commit adultery with.

 

    Unfortunately that voice in our head usually begins with those things which are the easiest to argue for.  It talks about spending time with our kids.  Or the need to work.  Or other honestly important things.

 

    In your bulletin is a white “home work” sheet.  On it this exercise is outlined so you can actually do it during the week.  Please call me and we can discuss your findings about yourself.

 

    The next part of the exercise is to agree that there are important things in our life ... so make it easier ... say 2 hours more a week of God’s ministry ... agree that the kids are important and work is important and now see what that little voice says cannot be given up.

 

    Then part three of the exercise is to go back to the things we agreed are important, and ask if they all are so important.  Or are there other ways they could be accomplished.

 

    What would happen if a major crisis hit your life? ... Or ANOTHER major crisis!  Something that requires time .... how would you adjust those activities under that circumstance?

 

    Once we have thought through some of those decisions ... those priorities ... those choices we can more honestly ask ourselves about God’s place in our lives.

 

    On one side of the home work paper is the exercise for time and on the other side is a similar exercise for money.  The goal is the last question ---- where does God fit into my life?  What choice have I made?

 

    That same friend who talked about setting ministry priorities also suggested that the real question is commitment.  Have you ever known someone who said they were going to learn to play an instrument, maybe purchased one, maybe even took some lessons — but seldom or never practiced?

 

    How well did they do? .... They CLAIMED to have made a choice but actually never made a commitment.  They did not count the cost before hand, and were not willing to pay the cost once they started.

 

    Consequently they never received the joy they could have found.  They choose death rather than life ... They glanced one way, and walked the other.

 

    Let us pray: Life giving God, we thank you for your love through which you give us these opportunities.  Open our spirits and our eyes to see the choices before us.  Strengthen our wills to stay the course with you.  And keep us always mindful of the glorious life you make freely available to us all.

 

 

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